One second your schedule is totally open, and the next you’re so booked up that you actually have to pencil in time for sleep. Instead of getting stressed, take a breath: There’s a solution that will allow you to stick to the plans you’ve made and feel happy and fulfilled in the process. Because, sometimes doing it all can be a little much.

According to time management expert Laura Vanderkam, over-scheduling can quickly turn your life into one big blur, preventing you from experiencing the most memorable moments to the fullest. “One of the reasons people feel they don’t have time for adventures in their lives is that their schedules are booked up with things that they don’t wish to do and various commitments they’ve taken on. They don’t have space for the fun stuff because their calendar is full of not-fun stuff,” she tells Today.